We can go through phases of our lives that are bright and sunny full of light and energy that is even hard to contain in simple things like words. Punctuation interrupts the flow of thoughts, ideas, and energy. At other times, it feels like a shadow is passing across our energy field leaving a trail of emptiness. The passion has waned and the heart asks what is next.
This morning the United States will see a partial to almost total eclipse of the sun. An article in Science Daily, says, "A total eclipse is a dance with three partners: the moon, the sun and Earth," said Richard Vondrak, a lunar scientist at NASA's Goddard Space Flight Center in Greenbelt, Maryland. "It can only happen when there is an exquisite alignment of the moon and the sun in our sky." This quote made me think about how we have a dance with ourselves; the heart, the mind, the body. There are times when one part of ourselves overshadows another part, but rather than being out of alignment, maybe one part just needs more attention than another.
I have been feeling very stuck this year. It is like my body is overshadowing the other parts of myself since it has needed a lot of attention. I say that I have had health hiccups because it seems like one after another. But since I keep slowly moving forward taking care of the part of me that needs the most attention, while I continue learning and working on what needs to be done, I can see this shadow as an alignment that needs to take place.
You could call this reframing the situation, changing perspective, or appreciating an exquisite dance with self. Each part of ourselves needs special attention at one time or another. The heart or soul may be searching, the mind might be exploding with ideas, or the body might have too much of a good thing like an overgrowth of cells in all the wrong places.
I am learning to respect each part of myself and see the shadow not as an interference with my intentions or goals, but a new dance that will bring to light an awareness of a new resource, ability, or character that I have never used before.
As a Life and Career Coach, I am often reminded that we have so many resources and abilities within ourselves that we are not aware of until something or someone brings clarity into the dance to give it rhythm and purpose. When you experience the eclipse through media, pictures, or special glasses remember the shadow of the moon briefly passes across the sun to create an amazing experience shared around the world.
When your sun is so bright you feel overwhelmed or the shadow is crossing your path, seek out a friend, mentor, or coach for support, clarity, and accountability to create the life and work you want. Don’t know what you want? I have tools to help you with that too! Where are you in your cycle of creativity and productivity? I would love to hear from you. Comment or send me a message at, email@example.com.
Are you in the driver’s seat managing your career or are you a passenger waiting to see what direction it takes? If you are not clear about your vision, strengths, values, and goals you may be passively watching the road as opportunities come and go without recognizing the possibilities in front of you, and taking action.
Your Life Coach will show you how to take charge of your life and career. You can’t control the road hazards and detours along the way but you can choose how you act and react to your environment.
You have a vision for what you want in your life and career. If you take the time to write it down, reflect, clarify and see what is most important based on your values and strengths, you will have a clear picture for your life and career. A clear vision will drive you to make plans and goals that fit your values. Understanding your values and what is most important to you will take you on the ride of your life. With a Master’s degree in Career Counseling and 15 years’ experience, Nancy has the expertise to help you create your map for success.
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A couple of months ago I was having a lovely pre-valentines day dinner with my husband when my doctor called and told me he was sorry to give me the news that I have cancer and would need surgery. It was a shock, and I didn’t know what to expect. A large mass in my kidney, the doctor said. That didn’t sound good. I told my husband that I would have that glass of Merlot after all.
I got a roomette on the train with a big window. I was ready to be inspired to write the great novel. My computer was in my bag in the seat across from me as I gazed out the window looking at the mountains, snow capped trees, and rivers. I was mesmerized. I took lots of pictures and sat in awe of the nature surrounding us.
When I got back home, I interviewed a local entrepreneur about his businesses successes, motivation, and plans for 2016. Jim Brown is a cowboy married to a ballerina. It was very interesting to hear how they bring the two themes together in their Bravos restaurant. Read more of his success story.
You show your style in what you do, how you look, what you say, and how others perceive or react to you.
What’s inside is the substance. Without that you don’t have a resume, profile, book, or whatever you want to show people. But unless you can draw the person in to see the substance it goes nowhere.
Take a moment to think about your business. Imagine what you want your customer to feel when they meet you. Do you want them to feel relaxed or energized? Do you want to look efficient and functional or warm and fun? Do you want your voice to sound warm and passionate about what you do or cool and professional?
Whether you have your own business or you are in the business of looking for a job, working for an employer, or writing you want to find the style that truly reflects the you that you want to present. Notice how your customer or employer reacts to you. Are you getting the result you want?
- Am I presenting my best self for the situation?
- Will I need to check my vocabulary for power words?
- Is it time to revisit my goals to make sure they reflect my values and strengths?
- Are there other opportunities that are a better fit for me?
Style matters because it is how you show yourself to others. Unless you attract your audience with your style, they will never see the real you and what you have to offer your employer or customer.
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Nancy J. Miller
Nancy J. Miller